Relationships are a lot of work, but we all know that love conquers all. Couples fight to make up, but there are instances when one is fighting a loosing battle. It’s hard to see what’s best for yourself when you’re invested in a relationship. It’s not always easy to remember who you are and what you want. There’s nothing wrong with admitting a relationship has run its course, the following signs will open your eyes.
1. Constant Fights.
Fighting is normal. Fighting all the live-long day is not. You are two different people with different pasts and upbringings, so you’re bound to disagree occasionally, and sometimes agreements turn into big fights. But if you find yourself fighting way more often than getting along with this person, it’s time to bounce.
2. You Use Vulgar Language.
There is no scenario in which tossing mean jabs at each other is acceptable. Insults stick, and they’re at their worst when they come from the mouth of the person you love most. Don’t do this to your significant other. And if they do this to you, well… you deserve better.
3. Your Needs Are Put Aside.
Your needs matter. They matter a whole lot. In fact, they should matter to your partner more than their own needs. Because you put their needs first, they should do the same for you. Relationships require a team effort, and balance is a must.
4. You Pretend In Front Of Your Friends.
They’ve told you how magnificent you are, and that you deserve better. They think you should end it. These are discussions you’ve had with them multiple times and you haven’t left, so you might start to act like things are fine, as a way to avoid hearing them repeat themselves.
5. Jealousy And The Blame Game.
We’re all only human, so jealousy will happen on some level. But, excessive jealousy is never okay. If you don’t have trust in a relationship, you literally have nothing worth holding on to. Also when one partner is wrong and keeps on shifting the blame signals a problem.
6. Negative Energy.
Feeling uncomfortable or tense around someone is just your body reacting to the negative energy surrounding the two of you. Negativity can drain you mentally, physically and emotionally. We’re forced to deal with this stuff, but your SO should be a reprieve from that type of stress.
7. You’re Not Yourself.
Change will happen regardless. When you’re in a relationship, even if you both change, you should be going in the same direction. If your relationship changes you, it should only make you a better version of yourself. If you feel like you’re losing yourself or you don’t recognize who you are anymore, it’s not healthy.
8. You Can’t Seem To Do Anything Right.
Once you get to the point where you feel like everything you do upsets him or annoys her, and you’re tiptoeing around in your own relationship, you need to understand that you aren’t the problem. There is something with which your significant other is unhappy and he or she isn’t communicating that to you.
9. Feeling Like There’s No Point.
There is a difference between staying in a relationship because you’re comfortable and staying because you truly want to be there. If you feel like your relationship isn’t going anywhere, why waste the time? That’s time you’ll look back on with regret, but that you’ll never be able to relive.
10.You’re Just Not Happy Anymore.
What it really comes down to is happiness. You don’t have to justify why you aren’t happy anymore. It isn’t realistic to expect to be happy in every moment of your relationship, but as a whole, this person should make you happier. He or she should make you feel supported and capable of doing whatever the hell it is you want to do.