10 Ways To Get Over A Nasty Breakup
1. Allow Yourself To Cry
This will prevent a giant tidal wave of feels to wash over you in the workplace, or anywhere else inappropriate. If you don’t, you’ll repress your feelings until you break down in the office pantry while you’re microwaving your pasta.
2. Block Or Unfriend Him On Facebook
Maybe you assume you are a reasonable and mature lady-human who can handle seeing the occasional reminder of him on your Facebook timeline. There will be a really pretty young thing in his arms in every picture, and you will feel bad
3. Spend A Lot Of Time Outside
It’s a cliché, but fresh air really does clear your head. So does, you know, seeing the sun every once in a while. Take at least two hours from each day just to leave your ‘Cave of Forgotten Dreams’ and interact with the outside.
4. Stop Blaming Yourself
It takes two to break up, the problem wasn’t just you, it was you two as a couple. It’s almost reverse narcissistic to blame yourself that much! If you try to look at the relationship from the outside, maybe you’ll have an easier time seeing how you both contributed to the breakup.
5. Avoid Posting The Details On Social Media
Be it Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, just don’t. Airing your grievances on social media is not good for anyone, and it’ll be embarrassing later. Who’s gonna read it, anyway?
6. Reflect On Your Relationship
Consider all of the reasons that you and your ex broke up. Try to keep in mind that even if that you enjoyed being together for a while, something was not working. Thinking about the reasons why the relationship ended can help you understand why you need to move on. You may also be able to avoid making the same mistakes in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship.
7. Don’t Scheme To Get Him Back
Get some solid book recs, join a pickup sports game, go on a trip somewhere with a girlfriend. Paint your bathroom; I don’t care. Just do something for yourself.
8. Write About Your Feelings
Write in a journal or try writing poems. The most important thing is to be honest and don’t edit yourself as you go. One of the best results of writing it all down is that sometimes you will be amazed by a sudden insight that comes to you as you are pouring it all out onto paper.
9. Deal With Your Anger
Feelings of anger occur when we feel we have been wronged or there has been unfair treatment. In a situation where you will not contact your ex-partner, the best way to deal with anger alone is to relax
10. Take Baths
Baths are half wallowing and half cleansing/pampering, and thus are perfect for breakups. When’s the last time you really filled up your tub and had a good soak with a glass (bottle) of wine? Showers are not for the recently dumped.
