Have you ever found yourself falling for a guy, but felt something was a little off with your budding relationship? You can never seem to get much of his time, heβs always busy, and when you call him, heβs always visiting that mother of his at bizarre hours There are some great men out there, but there are plenty of bad apples too. Take a look at this list of 10Β telling signs that youβre the other woman.
1. Your Dates Are In Secretive Locations
A good indicator that youβre the other woman in his life is if all of your dates are in odd, out-of-the-way places like a dive bar or hole-in-the-wall diner thatβs nowhere close to your place or his. Also, does he accompany you to places like the mall or in town running errands? If he always has excuses as to why he canβt go certain places, he might be trying to avoid being seen with you.
2. His Phone Calls Are Private
Another sign that youβre the other woman is if your man always leaves the room to take his phone calls. Sure, we get private calls every now and then but not all the time! If he canβt answer his calls in front of you, heβs likely talking to his girlfriend or wife and trying to avoid any trouble from her and you.
3. Youβve Never Seen His Place
A big red flag warning that youβre the other woman is if he always comes to your place and youβve never even seen his house. If a guy is really into you, heβs going to eventually take you to his place regardless of his messy roomies or whatever excuse he comes up with. If heβs always avoiding going to his house for some reason, heβs probably shacking up with hisΒ girlfriend or wife.
4. Your Dates Are During Off Hours
One of the most telling signs that youβre the other woman is that your dates are always during weird hours like late nights and you canβt ever spend holidays or special occasions with him. If heβs always unavailable on certain nights, canβt see you until the wee hours of the morning or if he can only stay the night every now and then, heβs probably spending the majority of his time with someone else.
5. I’s Not Official On Facebook
This might seem like a silly way to tell that youβre the other woman but if he says no to even being friends on Facebook or keeps his Twitter account secret, you have a reason to be suspicious. If he lies about having either, thatβs another red flag. Even if you are friends online, donβt get too comfortable yet, some guys have multiple Facebook accounts to keep certain things private.
6. He Hates Pictures
Another one of the telling signs youβre the other woman is that your man hates taking pictures together or having his picture taken at all. Heβs probably afraid of the photo getting posted online and it being seen by the βwrong person.β If he doesnβt keep any pictures of you around, that could be another sign that youβre the other woman.
7. He Gets Nervous
One of the main signs that youβre the other woman is if he gets ants in his pants when you ask to borrow his phone or use his computer. Even if itβs a work phone or work laptop, thereβs no reason for him to get nervous when you need to use hisΒ things. If youβve seen him use either item for non-work stuff then you know heβs hiding something and heβs not just trying to be a good employee and follow work policy.
8. Youβve Never Met His Family And Friends
Another one of the significant signs that youβre the other woman is if youβve never met his friends or family. Sure, you might know the guy that he was with when he met you, but do you hang out with his homies on the regular or ever go out for meals with his siblings? Meeting the parents is a huge deal, but if youβve never met any of the important people in his life, youβre probably the other woman.
9. You Only See Him During Odd hours.
Spontaneity is good, fun even. But when you only find yourself spending time with this guy during lunch breaks or extremely late at night, itβs a sign that heβs just fitting you in where he can, so he doesnβt get caught or the outing doesnβt conflict with times when heβs with someone else.
10. He Wonβt Make Plans Ahead Of Time.
Everything is impromptu. Again, being spontaneous is great, but when you can never plan a real date with him because he doesnβt want to commit a day/time for you should βsomething elseβ like his girlfriend/wife come up, then eyebrows should be raised.
