10 Tips For dealing With A Difficult Co-Worker
A working environment is one of the most competitive environments, and it breeds unpleasant personalities.Β Difficult people do exist at work. They come in every variety and no workplace is without them. How difficult a person is for you to deal with depends on your self-esteem, your self-confidence and your professional courage.
1. Be The Better Person
If you find that a co-worker is always breaking bad on other employees and has a proclivity for office politics and gossip, try to distance yourself from that person. If you happen to share an office with the scandalmonger, try to only talk about work-related topics that are not personal attacks on others in the office.
2. Keep A Positive Attitude
No one wants to be around someone whoβs always negative and in a bad mood, so even if your difficult co-workers try to bring you down think about the positives in your job. If youβre struggling to see the silver lining think about what this job allows you to do outside of work. Perhaps your income provides you with a few discretionary dollars that can be spent on a favorite hobby.
3. Ignore The Person
Weβre at work to do a job, so focus on the tasks that must be accomplished and network with other people at your workplace who arenβt quite so difficult to be around.
4. Take Action
Sometimes people donβt realize that they are perceived as being negative or being a gossip. In a non-confrontational way, pull the person aside in private and tell them that youβre really trying to be positive at work and could use their help. This tactic might be subtle enough to invoke a change in their behavior.
5. Make The Most Of It
Thereβs no rule that we have to be best friends with our co-workers. You may find that you work with someone who you just canβt grow to like and thatβs OK. However, come to the realization that you do need to try to be professional and treat the difficult person with respect and civility. Continue to focus on your work and see if thereβs something that you can learn from the difficult person, even if itβs just the fact that you donβt want to act like him.
6. Maintain Your Character
No matter how tempting it may be, avoid complaining to others on a regular basis. Otherwise you risk earning a reputation as a whiner, and higher-ups may question why youβre unable to fight your own battles (even if they should be fighting them for you, or at least leading the charge). By constantly complaining, you might be branded as a troublemaker, and you could even be blamed for other office conflicts.
7.Β Keep It Confidential
Donβt go public with your grievances. More important, donβt engage with the problem person in front of coworkers, your boss, or clients. Keeping your issues with the person private will make it easier to leave the conflict behind you once itβs been resolved.
8. Approach them first
Take the initiative in repairing your relationship with the toxic coworker. Think positively, and act as if they are as enthusiastic about resolving the conflict as you are. Start the discussion by saying something like, βI may be wrong about this,β or βI apologize for doing anything that might have hurt you.β
9.Handle Aggression Assertively
If someone is being highly aggressive with you, either verbally or physically, then regardless of who they are it’s OK to walk away or say that you are going to put the phone down β and that you will return when they have calmed down. No one at work has the right to compromise your sense of personal safety and well being through engendering physical or psychological fear.
10. Be Mindful Of Psychological Health Issues
When an individual continually behaves in a way that is problematic or destructive, then the roots often lie deeper than whatever is happening at work.
