It is no easy go by task to believe your lover. Every lover has that element of jealousy in them but it can be a silent killer to something that would have been big and beautiful.Here are tips on how best you can beat jealousy:
- Take them for their word
Yes the best thing to do for a relationship to thrive is to take them at their word. If they do lie to you, then they are not making a fool out of anyone but themselves – remember that. It’s been said that trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. It’s very insulting for your partner to have you always doubting their word or decency of behaviour. Constant questioning by you can even be as destructive as having an affair in the long run.
- Stop comparing him/her with others
Jealousy thrives when we make differences felt and seen.Then stop comparing him/her with others.There are better looking, richer, funnier, smarter, younger people around than just about all of us, but these are qualities of a ‘product’. If he or she loves you, it will be because of an extra, indefinable quality you have that they couldn’t even explain – some deep part of your humanity they connected to which transcends looks, youth, wealth, and so forth. Some of the most loved people in history have been well down the list when it comes to looks or wealth. Stop trying to compare them with others then you they will not be jealous.
3.Don’t play games
Jealousy is excruciatingly uncomfortable. People sometimes try to make themselves feel better by trying to get their partner jealous. Don’t do this. Flirting with other men or women all the time in front of your partner; constantly saying how attractive, fun, and witty someone you work with is; and going out of your way to talk about past lovers just demeans you and won’t make either of you feel better in the long run.
4.Lower your expectations
Look at your core beliefs, like ‘my partner should never be attracted to anyone else or be flirtatious’ or ‘I should always know what my partner’s doing.Such sayings will leave you unhappy and on the edge of relationship anxiety.Just lower your expectations towards your lover.
Jealousy can help you realize how much a partner matters to you, or help you pick up on potential red flags. What it cannot do is full-on prevent your partner from sending flirty DMs or cheating on you with a coworker. All you can do is your best in communicating your worries and making sure your jealousy isn’t consuming you. Everything else, you can’t control – but you can definitely survive.